The Sins of Superiority are, besides the neglect of the duties required of them, an inordinate seeking of themselves, their own glory, ease, profit, or pleasure; commanding things unlawful, or not in the power of inferiors to perform; counseling, encouraging, or favoring them in that which is evil; dissuading, discouraging, or discountenancing them in that which is good; correcting them unduly; careless exposing, or leaving them to wrong, temptation, and danger; provoking them to wrath; or any way dishonoring themselves, or lessening their authority, by an unjust, indiscreet, rigorous, or remiss behavior. (taken from the Larger Catechism of the Presbyterian Church - Answer to Question 130)

Question yourself:

If you are a parent:
1. Do you believe your main obligation to your children is to feed and clothe them? to give them many things? perhaps, to take them to Sunday School?  Otherwise, do you pursue your own interests?
2.  Do you give them what they want without their having to make some contribution from time to time?  Do you frequently shrink from disciplining them?  Do you indulge them and give them their own way to make your children like you? to keep from "inhibiting" them? to stop their whining or temper displays for the sake of your peace?
3.  Do you make your children attend to their own needs and/or make their own decisions before they are mature enough to do so?  Or do you perform even the simplest tasks for them and make all their decisions for them?

If you are the father, in particular:
1.  Do you believe your only duty is to support your children?
2.  Do you ignore your biblical responsibilities, shifting the burden of child-raising and "spiritual upbringing" to your wife?  Do you doubt that God holds you accountable for your children's behavior?
3.  Do you give your children things and neglect to give them yourself?  spend little time with your children?  Would you rather pursue your own ease or interests than listen to them, counsel them, or discipline?

If you are a husband:
1.  Do you take it for granted that your wife should work to be able to contribute financially to the household? that she make the major decisions and be held responsible for them? that she handle difficult situations alone? cope with legal matters?
2.  Are you bitter against her because you feel that your wife is somehow responsible for your lack of success, comfort, or prestige?
3.  Are you so preoccupied with other things that you "shut her out"?  Do your rarely speak words of love, encouragement, or praise to her?  Do you "run roughshod" over her needs?

If you are in other positions of authority:
1.  Do you use those whom God has placed under you?
2.  Do you require that those under you do something that will place them in physical danger? that will place them under pressures to commit sin?
3.  By questionable, dishonest, unjust, or immoral conduct on your part, do you lose their respect for you in one in authority?

-questions from Lauxstermann"s The Believer's Delight, p 67-70