"Do not let the sun set on your anger."
(Ephesians 4:26)

Whether we express our anger overtly or suppress our anger which turns into resentment, restlessness, brooding, depression, or bitterness, another approach between the two deadly sinful actions exists which can gradually led us to the virtue of meekness (patience).

First, we should allow ourselves to acknowledge our angry feelings and take a good look at them.  Ask ourselves: "Where are they coming from?"  "Why does this or that real or imagined slight arouse such strong feelings in me?"  "Is it possible I have made my 'ego' the center of everything and find it constantly thwarted?"  What or who am I trying to control now that I can't?"  Anger often reveals how we feel and think about ourselves, how important we consider our own ideas and opinions.

Second, we should allow ourselves to talk about our angry feelings when this is reasonably possible.  Talking it out is not a panacea for all feelings of anger or for all results of anger, but it can help us focus our anger and begin to seek practical solutions.  The great temptation in this practical method is to blame others or things for our anger rather than to accept personal responsibility that it was our own attitudes of desiring more than we ought, or of thinking of ourselves more than we ought, that was really the problem resulting in the emotional consequences of the feelings of anger.

Third, we should try to learn to contain our anger, not allowing it to overflow its boundaries.  If we do not exercise control, we may find that the feelings will overflow its banks and break out into hurtful and hurtful actions, whether in action or in words.

Fourth, we should try to develop the virtues that take the wind out of anger, especially meekness, patience, and a sense of humor.  Meekness is not weakness, but can help a person to be calm, quiet, and gentle when under attack.  Meekness is an inner strength which enables us to keep things in proper perspective and helps us to endure injury (real or imagined) without striking out in return.  Meekness inspires us to look at the world and the human condition with compassionate eyes.  It teaches us to be peacemakers by seeing and controlling the aggression and disorder in our own souls.

"Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the land." (Matthew 5:5) 

Meekness seeks for the serenity to accept the unmanageable, asks for the courage to change the things that are possible, and learns to understand the difference between the two.